Is it just me, or is the thought of having children overwhelming and scary? I want to be a mom. I do. But there are so many things that can go wrong. What if the child has down syndrome? What if the child has autism? What if the child is deaf or has a birth defect? It scares me to think about all the different things that can go wrong with little babies. And then every child is going to come with their own challenges. What if my child is teased a lot? What if someone hurts my child? What if my child is a bully? What if my child makes bad decisions? I know there is a lot I can do to be a good parent and help a lot of these situations (medical and non-medical) but obviously even the best parents have problems to deal with. And I'm not saying I want perfect children. I know there will be issues in their life. That's life. But there are a lot of issues that are really scary to think about - like down syndrome and autism. It makes me want to put off having kids for fear that something major will go wrong. Am I the only one that feels this way?
I want kids. I want to be a mom. But please tell me that I'm not the only one that is scared by it.
Starting a family is terrifying, and really, you'll be scared your whole life for them. It's worth it though. To know you brought them into the world, and experience awhole new level of love is amazing. But it is certainly scary, too. Even now that we have 1, I'm scared to have a second just because I'm worried that I won't be able to handle it, or Alexa will feel neglected or something. But you have to hope for the best!
ReplyDeleteI don't believe there has ever been a potential parent who wasn't frightened and worried. It's literally something that you cannot be completly prepared for.
ReplyDeleteBut, thankfully, when they come, you adore them so much that birth defects are irrelevant and you'd do anything, move mountains if necessary for their benefit.
I also took great comfort in the fact that studies have shown that parents gut instincts are usually right. So I do what my gut tells me is best for my kids and then I move on.
Fear is normal, but I'm telling you. There is NOTHING better than being a mom!